How are you? Truly – how are you?
It’s a question we often ask without expecting an honest answer. But today, I’m asking with full intention because, let’s face it, so many of us aren’t OK.
And that’s completely understandable.
I don’t need to list all the reasons why. You already know them – the multitude of stressors, global and personal. Then there’s the invisible weight of our individual circumstances: chronic health conditions, neurodivergence, mental health challenges. Each of these demands energy, patience, and fortitude.
Living With Chronic Illness: The “Part-Time Job” You Didn’t Choose
I recently heard someone describe having a chronic illness as akin to holding down a part-time job. It hit home. Think about it:
- The appointments to schedule, attend, and recover from.
- The setbacks, both “minor” and “major,” and the time it takes to process them.
- The energy spent explaining, justifying, or advocating for your needs.
- The trial-and-error of new treatments, medications, or procedures.
- The relentless navigation of societal ableism and flawed healthcare systems.
And let’s not forget the financial cost of this “job” we didn’t apply for.
It’s exhausting. And that’s before we even address the global chaos – the environment, political instability, the wellbeing of our loved ones, both human and non-human.
If you’re not OK, that’s OK. Feeling overwhelmed in this context isn’t a failure – it’s a realistic response.
If You Are OK, Here’s How You Can Help
If you’re fortunate enough to feel OK right now, cherish it. And please, use that energy to check in on your people. Reach out to a friend who might be struggling. Volunteer where you can. We all need to be there for one another.
Pacing Yourself: Giving What You Can, When You Can
For those of us running on limited reserves, here’s a reminder:
- If you have 15% energy and give 15%, you’ve given 100%.
- If you have 75% and give 75%, that’s 100%.
- If you have 1% and give that tiny sliver, it’s still 100%.
I’m not saying to give everything you have left, I’m saying give only what you have to spare. If you’re unsure, err on the side of caution. Even small contributions can make a difference, and timers can help set boundaries to avoid overexertion.
We’re in this for the long haul. Whether we’re facing personal battles or collective challenges, we need to build strength, resilience, and grace in ways that are sustainable.
Leave Room for Miracles
Here’s the thing: we may not be at the end of the road, or even the middle, but life is full of surprises. Let’s always leave room for miracles. What if something unexpected, something beautiful, is possible?
Support and Sustainability
If you’re seeking ways to live more sustainably, tailored to your unique needs, or if you’re ready for personalised support, I’m here to help. So, get in touch.
Until then, take what you need, give what you can, and remember: your strength matters, no matter the size of the effort.
Sending you fortitude, validation, and love,
Marina
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